I know what it feels like to hide.

I used to ditch empties because I was drinking so much I had to keep it from the people I loved.

The shame crushed me. But this can change.

There is an unimaginable life on the other side of this battle.

You do not have to solve everything today.

If you’re willing, this is a place to start.

Start here

Three small steps

  1. Don’t drown in shame.

    You are fighting a battle.

  2. Speak the truth.

    Start with yourself, then one person you trust.

  3. Hear from someone who has been there.

    Read or listen to someone who made it through.

The Sticker Story

I battled alcoholism for well over a decade. I was lucky, and I found recovery.

Within my first year sober, I watched a strange car drive into my back alley, roll down the window, ditch bottles in my trash, and tear off in fear.

I knew what was happening as soon as I saw the car.

I was watching a ghost of my past.

I was too late to get to that person. Too late to tell them they were not alone.

That’s why I made the sticker.

To be there in a moment of shame. The moment someone is trying to get rid of the evidence, and maybe trying to get rid of the version of themselves that keeps ending up there.

We’re not alone in this battle.

And none of us are meant to fight it without help.

Need help today?

A few places to start. No forms, no waiting rooms.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Free, confidential support when you need someone now.

Call or text 988

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The memoir

Chasing Control

A memoir about hiding, collapse, shame, recovery, and rising to seemingly impossible challenges.

Learn about the book
The NewsletterMore Than CapableOngoing writing and conversations about recovery, faith, discipline, fatherhood, and becoming whole.
Recovery ArchiveChapter 3 StigmaBefore More Than Capable, Chapter 3 Stigma was a recovery-focused archive of conversations about addiction, shame, family, faith, and rebuilding.

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